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Implement This Golden Rule & Raise Great Kids
I grew up in an extremely critical family.
Everyone criticized and cut each other up for damn near everything.
It destroyed our self-esteem, self-respect and self-worth.
At a very young age, I vowed to myself that I would NEVER allow the same thing to happen to my own children.
I created my Golden Rule.
It was the one rule in our house that would always be enforced and would never be broken.
This rule was taught to my kids from the time they learned to walk. It was the unwritten rule.
Never criticize anyone (or yourself) about something that cannot be changed.
What It Means
People cannot change physical things about themselves, they can’t change their heritage or their family members. They can’t get rid of the accent or lisp that they were born with nor can they change this size of their head, hands or feet. That birthmark or defect is there to stay. You get what I’m saying here.
An attitude or a mood, a temper tantrum, vocabulary and such can be learned and/or changed.
Physical attributes can’t be.
The Likely Outcome
Criticizing anyone, especially a child, for things they can’t do a damn thing about will not only hurt them emotionally and psychologically now but they carry it to their future amd usually to their death.
Self-esteem and confidence are shaken, sometimes irreparably. Don’t do this to anyone especially a child.
Words Are Weapons
Words hurt everyone regardless of age. Children haven’t yet developed coping mechanisms to deal with the feelings experienced by the critical out-lashing. Hell, most adults can’t either.
Words hurt and can be dangerous.
It’s a human wonder how a negative remark will cling in your brain forever but the compliments slide by quickly and need be reinforced over and over again.
Teach your children from a very young age, not to destroy someone with words. As a parent, live as an example to them.
This simple rule, implemented young, and followed to a tee, will produce human beings who are more conscious of the things they say to people as well as more considerate of the feelings of others.
Raising All Boys
I raised four boys myself, so this rule was steadfast in our home. They are now grown and gone now, but last Sunday they came to watch the football game. My eldest son brought up “the rule” in a conversation and thanked me for it.
He informed me that he has implemented that rule all throughout his life and knows it made him a better person and he will pass the rule down to his own children.
He even admitted that he and his brothers all respected and followed my rule even when I wasn’t home.
A mama’s proudest moment. 🙂
Teach your children well, and you will be astounded by what beautiful human beings they become.
The power is in your hands. Use it well.